At times I wonder if my partner really likes me. Is the spark still there? Do the sparks fly when we are together and then fade when we are apart? Sometimes I think that if I asked my partner what he/she thinks about me, would he/she tell me straight off that my love for them is real? Or would he/she just sigh and smile indulgently?
Sometimes I think my partner has changed. Is the spark still there? Am I not attractive to my partner anymore because I am too ‘real’? Am I not interested in my partner’s mind? Am I not good enough for my partner?
Sometimes I wonder if I am better off alone. Having been with my partner for a number of years now I have begun to wonder if I am better off without him. Does he/she not get bored of me? Am I no longer of value to my partner? Am I less desirable to my partner than they perceive me to be? All these thoughts and more will undoubtedly come to your mind when you stop and really think about it.
Sometimes I wonder if he/she sees me as a worthwhile person. Sometimes I wonder whether he/she feels the same way about me. When we argue sometimes the things we say to each other, can either hurt or offend each other. When we argue over insignificant things, this can cause resentment and hostility to build up. At these times, do we ever stop to think about what it is that we are actually saying to each other?
Sometimes I wonder if my partner’s friends and relatives regard us in the same way as we do. I remember being told by a close friend that my husband was a ‘great catch’. I wondered how anyone could consider anything less than a ‘great catch’ when I considered myself a great catch. This friend who knew my husband well went on to say that he would never leave my partner and that he might even think about marrying me.
Sometimes I wonder if our partners would rather spend their time with someone else. I used to think that this was a given. I might have even thought that my husband would choose to be with someone else if he felt that my time was better spent somewhere else. Now I am beginning to wonder if this might be an approach that they use on a regular basis. If my husband truly loves me and thinks that I am the only person in his life that he cares about then he would never choose to be with anyone else.
Sometimes I wonder if my partner is faithful. It’s an uncomfortable feeling when you’re wondering if your partner is as faithful as he claims to be. This of course is an extremely hurtful thing to wonder about, especially if you both are committed to one another. It might seem like an unfair question to ask, but if you are looking for answers then you have reached the right place. There are many loyal and faithful men out there and your partner might be one of them.
Sometimes I wonder if I’m doing everything I can to make my relationship work. Commitment is a very important part of a relationship and if you want your relationship to work, you have to be committed to each other. If you two can’t commit then you can’t share the love and hope. You have to be ready to give over to your partner in order to stay together. You won’t find true love if you don’t work at making your relationship work.